Just because it feels intense doesn’t mean it’s healing or rewireing.

Just because it feels intense doesn’t mean it’s healing or rewireing.

And it definitely doesn’t mean your nervous system is rewiring.

Intensity can feel like truth.

Like breakthrough.

Like something important is happening.

But neuroscience and the body tells a different story.

When you push, force through armour, override, or chase peak states, you’re often activating the sympathetic nervous system, fight/flight , and flooding the body with adrenaline, dopamine, and stress hormones.

Yes, it can feel euphoric.

Yes, it can feel sexual, spiritual, transcendent.

And NO, that doesn’t make it healing or rewireing

I see this all the in the field and I am going nuts!

This is not evolution guys !

Lasting healing and rewiring happen in states of safety, regulation, and coherence.

That’s when the brain’s plasticity mechanisms actually turn on. That’s when the vagus nerve comes online.

That’s when the body learns something new instead of rehearsing survival and retraumatization.

If your practice requires:

- forcing sensations

- pushing past your edges

- overriding your subtle “no” to reach a “high”

- mistaking catharsis for integration

…your nervous system isn’t learning safety.

It’s learning endurance.

And endurance is not healing. It’s just sophisticated self-abandonment dressed up as “transformation.”

That we all very much copy paste from society!

In embodiment, tantra, and sexuality work, more intensity does not equal more depth.

Often it means less.

True rewiring feels subtler. Slower. It is taking time for integration. Sometimes it will feel even boring to the adrenaline-addicted parts of us.

But it creates change that stays in the long run!

It creates the actual evolution!

Your nervous system doesn’t need more intensity.

It needs enough safety to let go. Deeply. It needs deeper integration

That’s where real power lives.

With love for what is boring

Riihannon Wilde